I presume that you might have read my previous article about my dad. Now, in this article, I would like to introduce to you my mom. I want to give a shout out to her philosophy of life, which has since been transmitted to my mindset.
“Positive pieces again,” my friend commented on my blog post I shared on Facebook. Frankly, most of my writing is likely written from a positive perspective. This positivism is generated from the philosophies I am taught at home by my mom.
Like my dad, my mom didn’t go to university for higher education. She works 24 hours a day and seven days a week as a housewife. Beside housework, my mom was my first teacher who taught me how to speak, walk and do many things for the first time in my early stage as a human being. Not only did she teach me how to be a well-behaved human, she also guided me spiritually to be a good person too. What I always carry from her teaching is what it means to do good.
[Seeing this photo, you might think that my mom is a Buddhist but that’s not true. She is a Christian, she believes in Jesus. Mom told me that we need to respect other religions because all religions teach people to be good.]
“Doing good means that you help people without expecting anything in return,” Sophea (my mom) said.
She always tells me that I don’t need to do good deeds in front of the camera or many people just to wish to be called “ a good person” because according to her, a good person helps people without expecting any rewards. She doesn’t only teach this, but she also proves that to me.
My mom always donates our clothes to beggars, giving them food and sometimes making friends with them too. During hot days, she would tell me to smile and give the garbage collectors some drinks, fruits or shoes.
I still remember that my childhood home was in an area surrounded by sex workers and drug users, but my family never encountered any problems with them. I believe my mom was one of the reasons why. My mom told me not to discriminate and respect sex workers. To her, they aren’t bad people; they are people working for their life. With drug users, she always tries to gently guide them to behave good in society. She treats them like her nephews. These small kind deeds she did led us to live peacefully with everyone.
During that time, I learnt another important lesson. My mom was like a consultant to sex workers who came to talk to her to share the difficulties faced in their life. They sometimes talked bad about each other, so again my mom became a listener (she preferred not to be a judge). She listened to them carefully like their problems mattered to her and gave them encouraging words. Then, she kept those secrets to herself. My mom never reported anyone’s speech to another. Her philosophy was: “If people told you their secrets, they probably trust you the most. Don’t talk behind their back and break their trust.” She told me, “If you report other people’s speech, the words might be misinterpreted and it causes problems to everyone, including you.”
There are more positive philosophies that mom has taught me and they always pop up in my mind. My mom is just one of many examples that women are playing very important roles in families as well as society. As a housewife, she might not financially support me but she greatly influences my mentality and behavior. She spends most of her time taking care of the family but rarely does spend time for herself. Shouldn’t this housewife deserve more than respect?
If you started this piece with the belief that housewives don’t do anything important, please take some time to reconsider your perception again. Housewives can do more than housework. They can be teachers, influencers, philosophers and definitely givers of unconditional love for their family.
Views expressed here are those of the author’s and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views of UNICEF.