By Vanly Keomuda
Have your friends ever told you that they thought you were arrogant the first time they met you? Are you tired of hearing people telling you that you should get out of your comfort zone? That you need to go out more often and be more sociable? That you need to get your head out of the clouds?
I know that it can be quite tiring when people assume that you are unsociable, when the truth is that you are shy and an introvert. It is not because you do not want to interact with new people or be more active, but you just cannot do it.
I understand what it is like to be an introvert because I am one myself.
Every day, you keep telling yourself that you would try your best to socialize but every day you fail. The problem is that when you try to pluck up the courage to raise your voice, your body would not allow you to. Your heart pounds fast, adrenaline rushes in, your lips curl shut, and the words freezes in your throat. In the end, no sound comes out of your mouth and social interaction requires even more daring than before.
On top of all of that, you can feel your energy slipping the longer that you stay amidst the crowd. You start to feel the need to get back to your comfort zone in order to recharge your energy. However, the dreadful feeling is not over. You end up feeling bad about yourself because once again you have “failed” to put yourself out there.
So, to all the introverts, if you are reading this , I would like to tell you that you are amazing. There is no need to feel bad about yourself, simply just embrace who you are. It is not your fault being an introvert, society has been dominated by extroverts for centuries. Also, do not feel like you are alone because there are plenty of introverts out there who share similar experiences to you.
You also have your own superpower as an introvert. You get to know yourself better, you know what you want and how you feel. Because of your wild imagination, you get to see various worlds that others cannot see. Because you are rarely out, you can know for sure that your friends who are willing to stay in with you are the true friends. Even though, you have a few friends, you can know for sure that they are your real friends.
Another super power of the introverts are that when you finally manage to pull up the confidence to talk, people take you seriously. They would listen to your ideas. Also, people would call on you in their time of need because to them your silence earns you the title of being a good listener. People can trust you with their secrets and know that they can rely on you.
Before I officially end this letter, I just want to stress that there is no shame in being an introvert. At the end of the day, you have to live your life the same way that you want it to be. Therefore, embrace who you are, be the person that you are born to be, just feel comfortable with yourself.
After you finish my letter, I want you to loudly say this phrase to yourself “I am proud to be an introvert.”
From a fellow introvert,
Views expressed here are those of the author’s and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views of UNICEF.